Will workplace friendships survive in the remote and virtual worlds?
Asked what has most affected their mental health, 41% of WFH staff in a Gazprom survey said it was not being able to socialise with their colleagues.
Shasta Nelson is author of The Business of Friendship: Making the Most of Our Relationships Where We Spend Most of Our Time. “Work is the number one place where people make friends,” she says. “Loneliness has been proven not only to contribute to health issues and unhappiness, but also to impact workplace productivity, employee retention, innovation, and the company’s profitability. Research has shown that loneliness in the workplace can lead to an increase of absenteeism by nearly 37%, and a 16% decrease in profitability with a 65% decrease in share price over time.
“We’re more likely to be lonely at work if we’re a new hire, senior leader, male, Hispanic or African American, in poor or fair physical or mental health, Generation Z or Millennial, or working remote.”
Arranging friends
Employers have been finding new ways to encourage socialising, even if it means sticking to Zoom or Teams.
Trayport, an energy trading software firm, won the 2021 Employee Benefits award for supporting employees during the pandemic. The response of HR included a ‘working from home doesn’t mean working alone’ wellbeing campaign. Trayport arranged new online activities linked to a wellbeing theme each week, as well as quizzes and other entertainments like a magician. The wellbeing offering was expanded to include virtual classes in yoga, mindfulness and fitness.
Other employers have set up virtual happy hours for after work catch-ups, team games and encouraged the use of chat forums for casual chit-chat.
Who’s listening now?
“Organised events for socialising are one thing — but the reason why so many friendships are made at work, and why those relationships are so valued, is that they weren’t the result of formal, organised activity,” comments EAPA UK chair Eugene Farrell.
“The moments over cups of coffee and meeting on the stairs were where people were just being themselves. Sometimes it was just the chance to let off steam about demands from the boss, to step outside work roles and identities, that kept people feeling human.
“The concern must be that if people aren’t able to make or keep up face-to-face friendships then they don’t have those colleagues who they can take into their confidence. There’s even fewer people they can share their worries with, about work or home life.
“In this context, the EAP is an even more important listening service, making sure everyone has an outlet for talking openly and in confidence with a friendly, well-informed supporter.”
Will workplace friendships survive in the remote and virtual worlds? EAPA UK